Sunday, October 7, 2007

Nope, Still Here

Just wanted to let you dear ones know that I haven't fallen off the planet or abandoned my blog, I've just been very, very busy. As I approach the twins' due date, I've got some things I want to post about grieving and about seeking/avoiding pregnancy after miscarriage. If any of you have any thoughts on those topics, I'd love to hear from you!

1 comment:

Kristin said...

Hi Melanie:

My husband permalinked a post from your MAMAHADEEN site, and I happen to notice your Hope in Miscarriage blog. I am so sorry to here of your losses. I too was frustrated and overwhelmed with questions, fears, emotions when we lost Wil last summer (4 months gestation). This is a great resource for other women who have miscarried. In response to your latest post: We didn't plan on becoming pregnant 4 months after our loss, but I too bled for months with no end in sight. It was almost as if my body was mourning the loss of Wil (at 4 months gestation). My milk came in after he was delivered, and since there was no one to feed, by body just ached for another baby (we have a 2 year old at home). I was put on the fertility drug Clomid (I had done this with my first pregnancy due to PCOS) so I was hopeful the bleeding would stop. The catch? Ovulation. If the ultrasound showed I had an egg, that meant we had to decide whether or not to have sex. Well the ultrasound showed no egg (BUT no bleeding, thankfully) Turns out I ovulated on day 24. Long story short, our daughter (and that pregnancy) was the best thing that ever happened to us. We knew we had an emotional journey ahead, so we threw ourselves into our faith (who knew we'd become Catholic!) and wouldn't you know we have received so many blessings since Wil's death. It's truly remarkable. But I strongly feel that one should mend his/her relationship with God before trying again. Bitterness and resentment will get one nowhere.