Thursday, November 13, 2008

The Biological Clock Sometimes Lies

This week on one of my favorite forums, a poor sweet mama who has been desperately trying to conceive wrote in frantic because she was turning 30 and her biological clock was telling her she was running out of time. Folks, it wasn't her biological clock, it was our crazy, over-medicalized society that evidently thinks you should only conceive your alloted 1.8 children between the ages of 26 (don't want you to marry too early, the culture says!) and 34 years old.

Thankfully, life isn't restricted like that. God made us fertile from our teens to our forties and I don't see any Biblical justification (and not a heck of a lot of scientific justification) for limiting your child-bearing in any way from marriage to menopause.

For the record, after the very difficult miscarriage of our twins last year, I'm 44 and pregnant and I feel great. The babe is growing nicely and kicking constantly and I'm looking forward to another great birth.

If you are hoping and praying for another child in the wake of a devastating loss, please don't add to your stress by buying into all that age/biological clock business. Yes, my eggs are older, but my God is still sovereign. I serve the same God Sarah (Abraham's wife who bore Isaac in her old age) did. Why should we fear?


Anonymous said...

Don't you just love that term Advanced Maternal Age that our society feels the need to label women over 34 who desire children....acckk..

Glad to hear your pregnancy is going well!!!

Melissa D. SC

Melanie said...

Yeah, I'm an elderly grand-multipara -LOL-

Thankfully, my doctor doesn't seem too freaked out about it. It is a little weird to sign in, though and write my birthday down and it's 20 years after the last mom's :-)

I do sooo love, though, to talk to the pregnant moms in the waiting room. "Is it your first?" "No, my tenth!" Love those looks!!

The Closet Therapist said...

This is so true! I often think of Sarah and know that if God can allow her to be pregnant at around 100, then he can allow me to have a baby at 35!

I found your blog by looking up hope after miscarriage.. I wrote my recent story on my blog and have felt God like no other time in my life.

Melanie said...

I am so sorry that you are dealing with this grief, too! I really don't know how folks survive these things without the Lord and the hope of heaven.

I went to your very cool blog and read your story :-( I'll be praying for you - this is one of the hardest times of life. Remember He gives us "the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness." May He comfort you in His arms! I'm so glad your husband is being a blessing to you!

Much love,