Just when I think that maybe, possibly the physical part of this is done, something else happens. I thought we were done with the bleeding last Monday but it started spotting again on Saturday. I think I'm just overdoing it, but for crying out loud, I've just got too much to do to not to keep moving some! I'm speaking three times at the NCHE Conference this weekend, my eldest is leaving for a summer in China in a couple of weeks, the a/c has just died at our house ($1000 for a new compressor, $4000 to replace the 20+ year old, constantly breaking unit, neither of which we have available), and if I don't at least supervise, nothing much gets done by the children. Arrrrgggghhhh.
All that to say, that the most comprehensive explanation of the recovery after a miscarriage I have read is at Facts About Miscarriage It's a little weak on natural miscarriage, there's more info about D&C, but there's more information there than I've seen anywhere else. It's very comforting to read the wide range of experiences that other women have had and to have an idea of what's normal and what needs follow-up.
I'd really appreciate your prayers this week, as I have no idea how I'm going to manage at conference - it makes my heart beat out of my chest to walk up the stairs =:-O
Love you all!
Melanie
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Poor sweet sister! It's been several days since I checked your other blog so I had no knowledge of this blog or your loss. I am so sorry.
Everything you say here is right on...the comments from well-meaning friends, the icky parts of miscarrying, allowing yourself to grieve, etc. Someone needs to talk straight about it. And anyone who is experiencing it needs to hear some straight talk about it.
I miscarried once at 11 weeks and it was very hard. I was thankful that my family always spoke of the baby as "him", not "it". He (or she) was always a person to us and we all grieved.
Thanks for sharing your heartache. I know it will be a benefit to someone.
((((Melanie))))
I have just found your blog and feel I have to comment. I came home yesterday after miscarrying at 11 weeks. It was the most frightening sad experience of my life. I feel very strongly that people need to be honest and open about their experiences so that women going through it for the first time do not feel alone..
I lost a lot of blood and passed a lot of large clots at home. I had no idea what to expect and after two hours of constant bleeding I rang my GP for advice. He was fantastic and insisted I go to hospital. There I continued to bleed heavily and pass large clots. I had to have two very painful internal examinations. The doctors explained what they were doing and talked me through everything which really helped. In hospital I became very sick and the cramps got more painful. During the night I nearly fainted and passed huge clots. I was lucky as the doctor warned me that all of these symptoms would happen. Being informed and treated with care and compassion by the hospital staff helped me with the whole experience and I am devastated to think that some women are left to go through this alone.
Eventually I had an operation and we are home now to begin our recovery. Life seems very different and we feel the loss deeply. I look at my husband with new eyes now and words cannot describe how grateful I am for his support.
I want to send my love and prayers to everyone who has lost a baby.
I have just found your blog and feel I have to comment. I came home yesterday after miscarrying at 11 weeks. It was the most frightening sad experience of my life. I feel very strongly that people need to be honest and open about their experiences so that women going through it for the first time do not feel alone..
I lost a lot of blood and passed a lot of large clots at home. I had no idea what to expect and after two hours of constant bleeding I rang my GP for advice. He was fantastic and insisted I go to hospital. There I continued to bleed heavily and pass large clots. I had to have two very painful internal examinations. The doctors explained what they were doing and talked me through everything which really helped. In hospital I became very sick and the cramps got more painful. During the night I nearly fainted and passed huge clots. I was lucky as the doctor warned me that all of these symptoms would happen. Being informed and treated with care and compassion by the hospital staff helped me with the whole experience and I am devastated to think that some women are left to go through this alone.
Eventually I had an operation and we are home now to begin our recovery. Life seems very different and we feel the loss deeply. I look at my husband with new eyes now and words cannot describe how grateful I am for his support.
I want to send my love and prayers to everyone who has lost a baby.
I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage! {{{hugs}}} May the Lord comfort your heart!
I agree that we really need to talk about this more. It's kind of shocking considering how common this is that there is so little frank information (and sadly, much of what is out there is full of bitterness and anger and was painful for me to read).
Much love,
Melanie
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