tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1651203945952162254.post3812687398702167434..comments2022-02-20T16:53:19.935-08:00Comments on Hope in Miscarriage: Immediate Tips for When There's No HeartbeatUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1651203945952162254.post-9496477770792580732012-12-05T13:35:46.906-08:002012-12-05T13:35:46.906-08:00Thank you so much, my friend for your encouraging ...Thank you so much, my friend for your encouraging and very helpful post! I have been hoping more women would share these practical things that no one tells you! I particularly like the diaper and sitz bath ideas.<br /><br />I am so sorry to hear about the loss of yet another little for you! May the Lord wrap you tight in His arms as you heal and recover. <br /><br />Much, much love,<br />MelanieMelaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06412313508492468369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1651203945952162254.post-80147718423418486462012-11-24T18:18:36.870-08:002012-11-24T18:18:36.870-08:00Hi Melanie,
Thank you for your site. It's bee...Hi Melanie,<br /><br />Thank you for your site. It's been a comfort, bringing me hope and information I could not find anywhere else. A verse very dear to me at a time like this is: The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart... - Psalm 34:18. <br /><br />My heart had been heavy for weeks after finding out I'd have another miscarriage, but was recently filled with God's hope even in such a time. I find comfort in knowing He's near and cares. Also the book "Heaven is for Real" by Todd Burpo gives a beautiful picture of heaven. It even speaks directly to miscarriage, God's love for children and our babies in heaven.<br /><br />My husband and I have now just lost three babies to miscarriage. These past few days have been the culmination of weeks of waiting after hearing that our baby had no heartbeat. <br /><br />I wanted to write in since I'm so practical and last time had wanted to know how to prepare/ endure a natural miscarriage at home, but had not found any advice online. Often information is comfort to me since I like to be prepared and know what to expect. With this loss, we found a system that could be helpful to others, particularly if miscarriage will happen past 10 weeks (producing more blood). Ours have only been between the 11th and 12th week, so I don't know what to expect for earlier MCs. The main benefit we have found in our system is more rest and time away from the toilet as well as a means to collect the baby for burial if desired.<br /><br />1) continue taking your prenatal vitamin. The iron supply will bulk up your body's resources to prepare for blood loss and hopefully help with a quicker recovery.<br /><br />2) purchase a package of Depends - adult diapers, and Nighttime sanitary napkins with wings. I had to swallow some pride with this one, but these allowed me to sleep several hours and often through the night. You can use the pads as liners for the diapers, exposing only the front, back and winged edges of the adhesive to secure. Prolonging the use of the Depends as long as they're clean is much easier than changing each time, especially in the middle of the night.<br /><br />3) get a sitz bath (Walgreens and CVS have these for $10-15) and clear garbage bags to use as liners. They rest in the toilet (with seat up) and allow you to collect clots. Cutting the bags into large enough squares to cover and tuck under the sitz bath helps lessen mess and reduce need to clean the bath, keeping everything sanitary. Toilet hats may also work and are about $2, but could only find online.<br /><br />4) place an old towel on the bed just in case. it's easier to wash a towel than change sheets.<br /><br />5) stock up on dark chocolate and hot chocolate. my husband would bring home chocolates with each store run for necessities. Dark Chocolate has a notable amount of iron to help with blood supply, but is also just a nice treat in the midst of pain and grief. <br /><br />Another important note. I'd been so confused about the signs of hemorrhaging. I heard from my midwives that if you fill a sanitary napkin within an hour to head to the ER, but a blood clot would fill it in a few seconds. The first miscarriage brought us to the hospital because of this misunderstanding. I recently came to understand that the blood clot (darker red, coagulated blood in varying sizes - they can get large like an orange) is not so much the concern since that had time to coagulate as it was exposed to oxygen, but bright red, flowing blood is what they mean. Confirm this with your doctor or midwife, but this has made sense and proved true for me. Sometimes they'll want you to come in if clots are larger than a particular size, so do heed those warnings.**<br /><br />My heart goes out to all those going through this. I'm hoping someone will find this very long post comforting and helpful as I would have.<br /><br />**Note: Each body is unique so situations vary. Contact your doctor/midwife if you are concerned and if something feels wrong head to the hospital. <br /><br />Blessings and hugs<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com